Lessons from a 10-Year Marriage

Last Chinese New Year was our 10th wedding anniversary.  We don’t really celebrate our anniversary but since it’s the 10th year, I thought we should at least do something special for a change.   I told the Hubby right after the New Year that he better plan something that day, because I’m not letting him off the hook this time around.  Well, we ended up in his hometown, in a private resort, swimming in cold water and singing our hearts out at a videoke machine.  And we did it together with the kids and the in-laws.  Love it!

What a Decade of Marriage Taught Me

The other day, as the Hubby was cleaning out some of our drawer, he found my old dairy.  I think it was written around our first year of marriage.  I quickly grab it away from him in case there’s anything he shouldn’t see and scan it myself.  Reading through it, I can’t help but laughed at the silliest things that we fought about back then and how unnecessary long it took us to make up after a fight.  But a decade had passed and so much had changed since then–most, for the better.  Of course, nothing came easy.  It took a lot of hard work and perseverance to make a marriage work no matter how much in love you both are.  If you ask me what a decade of married taught me, I’ll say:

Some things are not worth fighting over.  Truth be told, the Hubby and I had very little things in common.  When we started living together, we found out just how much different we were and yes, we argued a LOT!  But at time goes by, we learned that not every disagreement has to turn into a drama.  Some can and should be let go and every now and then, one has to give in to the other.  Somehow when one started to let go of the little things, there partner follows.  Then you both realized that it wasn’t so bad to give in from time to time. Continue reading Lessons from a 10-Year Marriage

The Princess is Now Seven

Wow!  The Princess is now seven years old and she’s growing more and more into a lady…something her daddy wishes not to happen just yet.  I, on the other hand is enjoying the fact that I can take her anywhere like my girlfriend.  Given that we still can’t have a night out and cocktails, but at least I have a shopping buddy.  She even enjoy going to the salon with mommy.

Just like the previous years, we spent her birthday with just the family jumping around at Fun Ranch.  I thought she’ll ask for a party this year since all her friends were throwing one, but she firmly declares that she’s going to play at the Fun Ranch instead of having a party. Continue reading The Princess is Now Seven

And Then He Was Five

Wow!  The Little Guy is now five years old and he’s so proud of himself for being a certified big boy.  Well, I’m not really sure where he got the idea about being certified but he sure is doing his best to live up to his big boy claim.  It’s really funny how mentioning the phrase “big boy” can work magic. Whenever h throws a tantrum or get frustrated about things not going his ways, I would simply to ask him, “Do big boys do this or that?” or “What would big boy do in this case?”  and magic – crying ends and he’ll be acting like a little man all day.  Cool!

His Five Years Old Milestone

Mr. Independent.  The Little Guy can pretty much take care of himself without mommy…literally.  He can bathe himself, brush his teeth, dress up and take care of his breakfast on his own.  He likes doing things his way, so unless he says that he needs help, you have to let him be.  If you help him without his permission, expect to be thanked with a big tantrum. Continue reading And Then He Was Five

The Big Boy’s Demands

big boyThe Little Guy had been claiming that he’s a big boy now and therefore:

  1. he can do things on his own,bathing, eating, dressing up and using mommy’s art materials for his paper artplanes…
  2. Tete (Big Sister) and friends are not allowed to make him play the baby (bib and all) when playing house.  “I wanna be the big brother!”
  3. he should go to the men’s comfort room, now. “Look mommy, boys goes to the boy sign not the girl sign!
  4. he should be allowed to play outside on his own.  “I need to play with the guys, mom!”
  5. he should be allowed to answer Tete’s Math problems.  “I love Math, mommy!  And I’m better than Tete!”

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Her Crowning Glory

Kpop High BunPrincess Ki was born with a full set of hair; so naturally, we got to enjoy styling her hair even before her first birthday.  We started out with just ponies.  My main goal then was just to get all those hairs out of her face and since I can’t tie it all at the back, I would just section her hair in several directions and tie them twist them in tiny buns.

As her hair got longer and her ability to stay still got better, my sister started braiding the Princess’ hair.  She must have liked it a lot because every time we picked her up at her grandma’s house, she would be wearing a different hairstyle. Continue reading Her Crowning Glory